Mental Health Awareness Month — Why Self Care Is Not Selfish and How Your Daily Practice Can Change Everything
May is Mental Health Awareness Month.
This year's theme, More Good Days, Together, invites all of us to reflect on what a good day actually looks like — for ourselves and for our communities — and how that insight can shape the way we support one another.
It is a simple question. But for many women — especially mothers, caregivers, and women carrying the invisible weight of holding everything together — a truly good day can feel like a distant memory.
This post is about changing that. Not someday. Starting today.
The State of Women's Mental Health Right Now
Let's name what is actually happening.
Approximately one in five adults experiences a mental illness in any given year — that is more than fifty million people. And roughly half of all adults will experience a mental health condition at some point in their lifetime.
The average delay between symptom onset and first treatment is approximately eleven years. Eleven years of suffering in silence. Eleven years of pushing through. Eleven years of telling yourself it is just stress, just hormones, just a busy season.
Chronic stress related to financial hardship can contribute to the development or worsening of serious mental illness. And right now, with the cost of living rising, grocery bills climbing, and economic pressure touching nearly every household — women are carrying a stress load that their bodies and minds were not designed to sustain indefinitely.
Maternal Mental Health Awareness Week runs from May 4 to 10, 2026 — a dedicated campaign to address mental health challenges before, during, and after pregnancy. The postpartum period is one of the most psychologically vulnerable seasons in a woman's life — and one of the least supported.
This is not just a clinical conversation. This is a community conversation. And it starts with each of us deciding that our mental health matters — not just in May, but every single day.
What Chronic Stress Is Doing to Your Mind and Body
Stress is not just a feeling. It is a physiological event.
When the body perceives a threat — whether it is a genuine danger or a packed calendar and an overdue bill — it activates the stress response. Cortisol and adrenaline flood the system. The heart rate increases. Breathing becomes shallow. The nervous system moves into fight-or-flight.
This response is designed to be temporary. The problem is that for most women today it has become permanent.
When the stress response never fully switches off, here is what happens:
Mental health deteriorates. Chronic stress is one of the primary drivers of anxiety, depression, and burnout. The brain, flooded with cortisol over long periods, struggles with memory, concentration, emotional regulation, and decision-making. You become reactive instead of responsive. Overwhelmed instead of grounded.
Hormones fall out of balance. Cortisol competes directly with progesterone — one of the primary hormones responsible for mood stability, cycle regularity, and reproductive health. When stress is chronic, the result is hormonal dysregulation that shows up as irregular periods, worsened PMS, low libido, and mood swings.
The nervous system stays dysregulated. Sleep suffers. Digestion suffers. Immune function suffers. And the capacity to feel genuine joy, connection, and peace becomes harder and harder to access.
Physical symptoms compound. Headaches. Tight chest. Shallow breathing. Chronic fatigue. These are not separate from mental health. They are mental health — the body expressing what the mind has been carrying.
The best way to protect mental health is to pay attention to it even when you are feeling okay. Becoming more aware of what disrupts your mental health will help you learn what tools and resources to reach for when you need them.
Self Care Is Not a Spa Day. It Is a Daily Practice.
Real self care is a daily practice of intentional deposits into yourself. It is the recognition that you are a living system — and like any system, you require consistent maintenance to function at your best. Not occasionally. Not when you break down. Daily.
Taking care of our mental health is as normal as eating healthy, exercising, or saving for the future. We do not wait until we are malnourished to eat. Mental health deserves the same proactive, consistent attention.
The Daily PILL — Three Seeds to Start With
The Personal Intentional Love Language — the daily PILL — is a framework I have built my life and my practice around. It is a set of seeds that I encourage every woman to sow into herself each day — intentional deposits that accumulate over time into a life that feels like yours.
Three Seeds to Start This Month — Rest, Still, Read
The Personal Intentional Love Language — the daily PILL — is a framework I have built my life and my practice around. It is a set of seeds that I encourage every woman to sow into herself each day — intentional deposits that accumulate over time into a life that feels like yours.
Here are three seeds to begin with this Mental Health Awareness Month:
Rest Protect your rest the way you protect your most important appointments. Sleep is when the body repairs. Stillness is when the mind resets. Rest is not a reward for a productive day — it is the foundation that makes productive days possible. Women who consistently prioritize rest show measurable improvements in mood, hormonal balance, cognitive function, and emotional regulation. Rest is not passive. Rest is medicine.
Still Create moments of genuine stillness every day. Not scrolling. Not waiting. Actual quiet. The nervous system heals in stillness. Ideas emerge in stillness. You remember who you are in stillness. Even five minutes before the house wakes up is a seed worth sowing. Stillness is where the nervous system finally gets permission to come down from the stress response — and where healing begins.
Read Feed your mind with something that expands your awareness, your knowledge, or your spirit. Reading with intention is one of the most accessible and powerful daily investments a woman can make. It builds the vocabulary to understand your own experience, the wisdom to navigate it, and the perspective to see beyond the season you are in. Even ten minutes of intentional reading a day changes how you see yourself and the world.
These are three of the seeds in the full Personal Intentional Love Language framework. To get all seven seeds and learn how to apply the complete daily PILL to your life — the book is available now.
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How Holistic Practice Supports Mental Health
Mental health and physical health are not two separate conversations. They are one.
The same chronic stress that dysregulates your nervous system also disrupts your hormones. The same hormonal imbalance that causes irregular cycles also affects your mood. The same poor sleep that impairs your cognitive function also elevates your cortisol and perpetuates the cycle.
This is why holistic wellness practices — practices that address the body, mind, and spirit simultaneously — are so powerful for mental health.
When you sit to steam, you are forced into stillness. Your breathing slows naturally. The warmth activates the parasympathetic nervous system. The meditative environment signals to the body that it is safe to rest. This is nervous system regulation. This is mental health support through the body.
Practices like yoga, meditation, journaling, breathwork, and intentional movement work through the same mechanisms — creating the internal conditions for mental wellness from the inside out.
More Good Days Start With One Decision
A good day starts with a decision. The decision to sow a seed into yourself before you pour out into everyone else.
Pick one seed from the daily PILL and commit to it every day for the rest of May. Sit in silence for five minutes before the house wakes up. Speak one kind word to yourself in the mirror. Protect your bedtime this week.
One seed. Every day. That is where it starts.
Crisis Support: If you or someone you know is struggling with mental health, help is available. In Canada, call or text 988 to reach the Suicide Crisis Helpline — available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.
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This article is for educational and informational purposes only and does not replace professional mental health advice or treatment. Please reach out to a qualified mental health professional if you are experiencing persistent mental health challenges.
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